Monday, April 21, 2008

Books: A Canary in the Relationship Coal Mine?

NPR's Talk of the Nation podcast for March 31 was called "Books: A Canary in the Relationship Coal Mine?" This is from the NPR site: Rachel Donadio talks about her essay in Sunday's New York Times, "It's Not You, It's Your Books." She writes that mismatched literary tastes can make it "chillingly clear that a romance is going nowhere fast."

Are there any books that your mate or prospective mate might read that would be a relationship deal breaker for you?

I like readers, and mostly what they read doesn't matter to me. When I first contemplated the question, I thought that there is no book that would be a deal breaker for me. HOWEVER, if they read Bill O'Reilly's autobiography, and found it thoroughly provacative and resonating, I would have major problems with that. General literature of any genre would probably not bother me.

How about you? Any deal breaker books?


splatypus said...

I don't care what my husband reads as long as he is willing to discuss it with me. He's reading Thomas Jefferson on Wine right now (my Christmas gift to him) and it's fascinating. I tend not to touch historical non-fiction so it's been a nice conversation starter!

cindy mindy pindy said...

Oooo...that's always been a deal breaker for me. Well, mostly the deal breaker is if the guy actually reads or not. Then there are different levels, does he only read magazines? Does he think the Da Vinci Code is a "really good book?" or, is he awesome like splatypus' husband who reads something that helps his mind to expand and grow. I'll take the Da Vinci Code guy nowadays because it's slim pickins' out there and I'm not getting any younger.

Oh, and I also want someone who likes animals.

Jackie said...

My husband only rarely reads anything but the newspaper and medical journals. But I'm a voracious reader, and only now and again am I taken aback by what someone else is reading. I guess after being in a book club and having so many friends that read I try not to take it personally if we disagree on a book.